We have never had more ways to reach one another. Phones. Messages. Social networks. Video calls. Online communities.
Yet something feels strangely absent.
Presence.
Our sense of community seems harder to define than it once was. We know what people ate, where they travelled, what they bought, what they think about politics and what they think about everyone else’s politics. And somehow, we may know less about how they are actually doing.
Technology has made communication easier. It has not necessarily made us closer.
Our Sense of Community Is More Than Connection
Connection is easy.
Community is not.
Connection requires access. Community requires responsibility.
A message can reach someone instantly. Community asks whether you will show up when they need you.
That distinction matters because societies are not held together by communication alone. They are held together by trust, shared expectations, mutual responsibility and the belief that other people will occasionally inconvenience themselves for your benefit.
Our sense of community depends on those small acts of responsibility that rarely make it onto a timeline.
Checking on someone.
Helping a neighbour.
Showing up when it is inconvenient.
Making room for someone else’s needs.
These things may seem ordinary, but they are part of what makes people feel that they belong somewhere.
The Cost of Individualism
Modern life encourages us to think of ourselves as individual projects.
Our careers.
Our brands.
Our achievements.
Our homes.
Our opinions.
Our personal goals.
There is nothing inherently wrong with ambition. Wanting a better life is natural. But a society composed entirely of individuals pursuing private interests eventually develops a problem.
Nobody feels responsible for anything beyond themselves.
The result is a strange paradox: everyone is busy building a life, while fewer people are building a society.
Individual achievement can create comfort, but it cannot replace belonging. A successful person can still feel isolated. A connected person can still feel alone.
Perhaps that is why a sense of community matters so much.
Do We Still Belong to One Another?
Community does not require everyone to think alike.
It requires people to recognise that their lives are connected to other people’s lives.
We can disagree and still care. We can pursue individual goals while recognising that we have responsibilities beyond ourselves. We can use technology to communicate without allowing it to replace the human presence that makes relationships meaningful.
The question, then, is not whether we are connected.
We clearly are.
Perhaps the harder question is whether we still belong to one another.
And if we do, what are we willing to do to prove it?
The Henry B Network
What Happened to Our Sense of Community?
We have never had more ways to reach one another. Phones. Messages. Social networks. Video calls. Online communities.
Yet something feels strangely absent.
Presence.
Our sense of community seems harder to define than it once was. We know what people ate, where they travelled, what they bought, what they think about politics and what they think about everyone else’s politics. And somehow, we may know less about how they are actually doing.
Technology has made communication easier. It has not necessarily made us closer.
Our Sense of Community Is More Than Connection
Connection is easy.
Community is not.
Connection requires access. Community requires responsibility.
A message can reach someone instantly. Community asks whether you will show up when they need you.
That distinction matters because societies are not held together by communication alone. They are held together by trust, shared expectations, mutual responsibility and the belief that other people will occasionally inconvenience themselves for your benefit.
Our sense of community depends on those small acts of responsibility that rarely make it onto a timeline.
Checking on someone.
Helping a neighbour.
Showing up when it is inconvenient.
Making room for someone else’s needs.
These things may seem ordinary, but they are part of what makes people feel that they belong somewhere.
The Cost of Individualism
Modern life encourages us to think of ourselves as individual projects.
Our careers.
Our brands.
Our achievements.
Our homes.
Our opinions.
Our personal goals.
There is nothing inherently wrong with ambition. Wanting a better life is natural. But a society composed entirely of individuals pursuing private interests eventually develops a problem.
Nobody feels responsible for anything beyond themselves.
The result is a strange paradox: everyone is busy building a life, while fewer people are building a society.
Individual achievement can create comfort, but it cannot replace belonging. A successful person can still feel isolated. A connected person can still feel alone.
Perhaps that is why a sense of community matters so much.
Do We Still Belong to One Another?
Community does not require everyone to think alike.
It requires people to recognise that their lives are connected to other people’s lives.
We can disagree and still care. We can pursue individual goals while recognising that we have responsibilities beyond ourselves. We can use technology to communicate without allowing it to replace the human presence that makes relationships meaningful.
The question, then, is not whether we are connected.
We clearly are.
Perhaps the harder question is whether we still belong to one another.
And if we do, what are we willing to do to prove it?
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Fawaz Ogunleye